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What Women Really Want In Their Relationships
by Bobbie Rill, M.A., L.P.C.
Equality is what you often hear many women of our day fighting
for, yet most of us want something that goes far beyond equality.
What women think they want:
Most women enter relationships and marriage with great anticipations.
Along with this comes an enthusiasm that generates the energy
to do many good deeds for all of her loved ones. Women want to
make their husbands and (later) their children happy. Maintaining
the house, the children, a job and being involved in church are
the challenges she gladly accepts. She strives to meet the needs
and expectations of the people in her life. She believes she
must become "wonder woman," only to find her energy
dwindling and the image impossible to maintain.
What women really want:
She really wants to feel appreciated, heard and understood. She
wants to be valued! What was experienced during the dating phases
has diminished. Her husband no longer has the time or the patience
to listen as he once did. The tender touches or holding of hands
has become less frequent. The romance has disappeared. These
are the ways she knows she is cherished and valued by her husband.
She longs for it - all of it!
What women really need:
Revelation 2:2 is a picture that is not unlike how many women
describe their husbands. They know their work, and the hours
of labor that are often required and how men persevere hardships
associated with providing for the family. However, they no longer
do the things they did when they were first in love. Scripture
describes the missing qualities women really need in their relationships:
"work produced by faith, labor prompted by love, and endurance
inspired by hope in our Lord Jesus Christ." - 1 Thessalonians
1:3
Bobbie Rill is Director of the Women of Virtue
seminar ministry. |
The Needs of a Man
by John Thurman
One of the most talked about subjects among married men and
women today is, "How do I meet my spouse's needs?"
In seminars that I conduct for couples, I try to help women
understand some of the needs men have in our relationship with
our spouses. At the risk of being simplistic, there are two basic
needs that men have. If these two basic needs are met, then the
man of your life will begin feeling fulfilled and will learn
to hold you in high regard.
When he feels needed, you can watch him give back to the relationship
The first need a man has is to feel competent. Guys need to know
that we are on the right track. So many times I'll hear women
complain about the lack of their husband's spiritual leadership.
When a wife complains to her husband about his lack of leadership,
she has no idea how much she is hurting him. Ladies, if your
man is not the spiritual leader he should be, rather than complain
about it, look at the spiritual things he does for the family
and praise him for his efforts. Does he lead the prayer at dinner
time? Does he take the family to church each week or sometimes?
You'll be surprised how much more he'll do for you if you let
him know you appreciate his leadership!
The second need a man has is to feel needed. Let him know
how important he is in your life through words or acts of encouragement.
Send him a special card or bring him a fresh cup of coffee as
he reads the morning paper. Choose something that will make your
man feel special. When he feels needed, you can watch him give
back to the relationship. You will become more cherished and
honored as wife and partner.
Here's an Action Plan for you! Build your husband's self-confidence
and motivate him to action by letting him know that you need
him and appreciate him! Begin your plan today! |
