Every year, Tom and Jeannie Elliff get away for a private retreat.
Once, while sharing a meal in an intimate restaurant, Tom asked
Jeannie the following questions — he wanted to listen to
his wife's words and hear from her heart. These ten questions
have become an annual exercise as Tom seeks to follow the apostle
Peter's exhortation: You husbands likewise, live with your wives
in an understanding way, as with a weaker vessel, since she is
a woman, and grant her honor as a fellow heir of the grace of
life, so that your prayers will not be hindered. -- 1 Peter 3:7
(NASB)
What could I do to make you feel more loved?
What could I do to make you feel more respected?
What could I do to make you feel more understood?
What could I do to make you more secure?
What can I do to make you feel more confident in our future
direction?
What attribute would you like me to develop?
What attribute would you like me to help you develop?
What achievement in my life would bring you greatest joy?
What would indicate to you that I really desire to be more
Christ like?
What mutual goal would you like to see us accomplish?
Tom Elliff is the pastor of First Southern Baptist Church in Del
City, Oklahoma.
