The 10 Laws of Boundaries
An excerpt from the book Boundaries in Marriage
by John Townsend and Henry Cloud
1. The Law of Sowing and Reaping: Our actions have consequences.
2. The Law of Responsibility: We are responsible to each
other, but not for each other..
3. The Law of Power: We have power over some things; we
don't have power over others (including changing people).
4. The Law of Respect: If we wish for others to respect
our boundaries, we need to respect theirs.
5. The Law of Motivation: We must be free to say no before
we can wholeheartedly say yes.
6. The Law of Evaluation: We need to evaluate the pain
our boundaries cause others.
7. The Law of Proactivity: We take action to solve problems
based on our values, wants and needs.
8. The Law of Envy: We will never get what we want if we
focus outside our boundaries onto what others have.
9. The Law of Activity: We need to take the initiative
in setting limits rather than be passive.
10. The Law of Exposure: We need to communicate our boundaries
to each other.
